Hard but Worth It

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Marriage is a wonderful step in a person’s life. Two people get to come together, love each other, and start a new, magnificent life. While this is true, it can cause some unrealistic ideals for marriage. Marriage is hard. It can be full of conflict, disagreement, and miscommunication. When some get married they are shocked by this discovery and wonder if they married the right person. The answer can always be yes. If two people truly love and support each other, they can work through the kinks of marriage and live a happy, fulfilling life together.
           
            There are important steps to take prior to a wedding and marriage. Weddings do not have to be extravagant and expensive. The requirements of a wedding are only that two people are joined together and celebrated in that marriage. If a couple doesn’t have the time or money to make a spectacle of the event, they have no need for worry. Sometimes a small wedding where relatives and friends pitch in helps bring families together and keeps the focus on the reason for the wedding. My professor mentioned in class the interesting statistic that purchasing a ring that costs over $2500 actually increases the likelihood that the marriage will end. Weddings and marriage should not be a competition or a reason to spend as much money as you’d like, for that could be the very reason for your downfall.

            When a man and a woman get married there are multiple things they have to figure out within the first month and year of marriage. You have to work together to create a balance between different family cultures and discover what rules and roles will exist in this new family you’ve created. Who will do the cooking? Will you each do your own laundry? Who is in charge of doing the dishes? While these sorts of questions seem somewhat irrelevant and simple, they can have a big impact on the flow of the marriage. Once the rules and roles are sorted out, a marriage will go much smoother.

            A key concept in figuring out the different rules and roles in marriage is by simply forming a plan and discussing it with each other. Having an understanding of what each other expects plays a crucial part in marital happiness. If your husband does something that bothers you, talk to him about it. Working through problems together will end in much better results than brooding silently about it will. My professor gave an example of this in class recently. He told a story of a particular couple. The wife was extremely bothered by the fact that her husband left his clothes on the floor all the time. At first she would just put the clothes away for him, but after awhile she got fed up with it and talked to him about it. The husband was stunned by it and explained to his wife that his mother had always picked up his clothes for him and he figured his wife would do the same. After talking about it and working it out the husband said he would try to be better at putting his clothes away and the wife promised she wouldn’t get irritated when he forgot.

            Marriage is a critical part of a person’s life. It can be extremely difficult, but working through those difficulties will only help a relationship grow stronger and create a deeper love between two people. When issues do come up, and they will, it is important to work through it and work through it together through communication and planning. People aren’t perfect, so a marriage is never perfect: just worth it.

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